There are certain lessons in life that don't make much sense until years later.
For me, one of those lessons was five yards.
Growing up, I played running back and fullback in a Power I offense, often serving as the lead blocker. Like most kids, I dreamed about breaking the long touchdown run. Those are the plays everyone remembers. My family likes to muse about the 150-pound fullback, but let me be clear — I was not a star athlete. I was less like Deion Sanders or my idols Bo Jackson, Emmitt Smith, Walter Davis and Earl Campbell; but I was more like Rudy — a "5 foot nothing, hundred and nothing, without a spec of athletic ability" type of player. It was heart and grit over talent and skill. Once our head coach mused in a team meeting referring to me as our "slowest running back" — a very odd way to introduce a compliment, and it was followed by a "but he tries hard and does what we say" — so laughter turned into a compliment. Unfortunately, the compliment lost a little steam to the "slowest running back" line and laughter of an entire huddle.
But that's not how football games are usually won.
Our coaches taught us something much simpler.
Average five yards every play. Move the chains. Stay on schedule. Don't chase the big play. Trust the process.
Looking back, I don't think they were just teaching football.
They were teaching life.
Years later, my wife and I found ourselves living by another simple phrase that has carried us through some of the best seasons of our lives and some of the hardest.
"One day at a time."
Those words have become part of who we are. Not because they're easy. Because they're true. Life is rarely changed by one extraordinary day. It's shaped by thousands of ordinary ones. One decision. One conversation. One setback. One opportunity. One day at a time.
The more I think about it, the more I realize that's exactly how healthy land is built.